The World is Full of Bad People?

Recently I asked the High School Bible class I teach if the world consisted of more bad people or good people.  It was interesting to me that the unanimous response of the class was that the majority of people were bad.  I was not too shocked by their response though.  We train our children from the youngest of ages not to talk to strangers for fear that someday they may come into contact with someone who might lure them away.  We are fearful to answer our front door when someone knocks because we don’t know who it is or what they might want.  Here in the city we live in locked houses with alarm systems and play in fenced yards because of the fear that a bad person might come and get us.

I just don’t think there are that many bad people out there.  On most days the news headlines focus on a hand full of tragedies that have happened in the area around us.  Stabbings, shootings, rapes, assaults and so many other horrible things.  I am not belittling the tragedies that impact those individuals and families.  But these events have happened in a population of approximately 7 million people in the area of North Texas where we live.  Over the course of a year, all those tragic events would barely impact 1% of the population where we live.

When tragic events occur, like the storms in Oklahoma, the good people get highlighted.  Among the tragic loss of life are stories of teachers throwing themselves over children, sacrificing their bodies to deflect the impact of cinder blocks, lumber and even cars.  The stories of these men and women clinging to children as if they were their very own highlight the goodness in the hearts of these gifted professionals.  The onslaught of volunteers, donations, prayers and assistance from around the world highlight the goodness and willingness to help of millions of people.  Unfortunately people don’t tune into the news to see the good things that people are doing day after day.

Goodness can be seen in our day to day lives in the courtesy we extend to others.  Sure, there are those around us who are impatient and at the end of their rope, but our patience and generosity can go a long way in refreshing their weary soul.  Every day I see people doing good, kind and helpful things.  Do you?

I know that a big turning point for me was my time on the Appalachian Trail.  (Today’s post is a part of the “Lessons From the Trail” series.)  Strangers going out of their way to help me even though I looked and smelled pretty bad.  When someone pulled over to give me a lift to town I had to trust that they only wanted to help and not harm.  Many times those good people went out of their way to lend a helping hand.  Strangers letting me stay in their home was among the most heart warming of experiences on the trail.  My entire journey on the trail was one that renewed my faith in the goodness of humanity.

I am baffled sometimes by the different perspectives that exist regarding our society.  Recently my wife heard someone say that we [Christians] are more persecuted today than in Roman times.  Last time I checked we weren’t being crucified upside down by the hundreds and set on fire to light the roads because of our belief in Jesus.  In our society we are free to believe as we wish and only on rare occasion will someone find themselves as the target of unwanted attention.  As a country we can freely own and read our Bibles, speak about God and our belief in Him, and we can even set aside a day as a country where we pray.  Sounds like a pretty nice place to live.

I’m not sure if it is just the people I know, but I have also heard some refer to school teachers as agents of the government who are seeking to brainwash our children and detach them from the family unit.  Really?  The same ones who selflessly threw their bodies across those young children to protect them in Moore, New Milford and so many other places?  I come from a family of educators and last time I checked none of them had secret identities or motives.  They simply love children (and students of all ages) and want to impart to them the knowledge and training they have worked hard to develop.

We are not living in a time of persecution, and secret government agents are not trying to destroy the family unit.  If anything we live in an era of ultra paranoia induced by too much information and too much speculation.  Too often we allow the things we see on TV news and read on the internet to impact the reality that we experience around us.  There are some jerks out there, but even the jerks aren’t truly bad people.  There are a ton of good people who are friendly, helpful, intriguing and genuinely desire what is good for their family and the community.  We also realize there are a few bad people out there, but when we think that everyone is bad and out to get us it damages our families, churches and society.

My suggestion…turn off the news, talk radio and constant flood of negativity from the internet.  Get out and experience reality for yourself.  Get your hands dirty.  Get sweaty lending someone a hand with some work.  Invite the neighbors over for dinner.  Volunteer with a service organization.  There is enough good stuff and awesome people out there to restore your faith in the genuine goodness of people.

One last thing… I try my best to be helpful and I want to give you something.  I am running a giveaway on my site that is completely free and will give you a great resource.  Jon Acuff’s latest book “Start” is all about overcoming fear and doing things that really matter.  It is a perfect book to go along with today’s thought.  You can click here to go to the post and register to win at the bottom of that page.  Go make it a super day!

Leaders at Home

It is easy to lose focus of our true priorities in this hectic and fast-paced world that we live in.  I recently read this quote that has stayed with me…

“Hey leaders: Your most significant vision casting will take place at home while putting your kids to bed.”  – Andy Stanley

I was first introduced to Andy Stanley in grad school when we read “Visioneering.”  I had not expected the first book in the course of study for my MBA to be written by the leader of a mega-church.  Andy Stanley’s text was about his process of developing a vision, plan or goal and then successfully selling that vision to others – vision casting.

“Visioneering” along with several of his others books sit on the shelf in my office where I can easily reach them.  Intertwined throughout his books is the constant reminder that leaders begin at home.  Many leaders throughout history have sacrificed their family for the sake of their vision.  It doesn’t have to be that way.

Last night I was writing an update for our church Facebook page, encouraging members to pray for the tornado victims in Oklahoma.  I wanted to make sure to include the victims in our area from the storms of the previous week.  Then I realized that the current events might distract us from the tragedy in West, TX so I mentioned that as well.  That brief space didn’t allow room for all the personal tragedies such as the Dallas firefighter who died this week while trying to save others.  All these tragedies can make us question God and the world we live in or they can fix in our minds the need to craft within our children the plan that God has for them and for our family.

A video grab of bedtime with our oldest daughter when she was two. (Click here for video.)

There are nights when we put our children to bed that help me to clearly realize my importance as a parent.  In our house we sing a song, pray and then let our older daughter ask two questions.  Quite often she wants to know what we are planning to do the next day, or several days in the future.  But other times she will drop a big question in just a few words…wanting to know how things are made or why people do certain things.  The gears are turning in her young mind and we sit down to give her an answer, perhaps the most important answer we have given her all day.

Last night was not one of those ideal nights at bedtime.  Our older daughter had to go to bed early as the consequence for continual misbehavior during the evening.  To put it mildly, she was not happy about her consequence.  But last night was a big part of showing our daughter the vision her mother and I have for our family and for her life.  We expect a certain type of behavior in our children just as God does His.  When we don’t behave as we should there are consequences.

Quite often at bedtime our children are exhausted and the parents are too.  We just want them to get in bed and stay in bed so we can have a few moments of peace.  Many times in life, the most powerful moments we have come when we are completely exhausted and drained.  Great leaders push through to do what must be done, what only they can do.  Parents have a role to fulfill and it is one that only they can do.  When you’re pushed to the end of your rope, and you will be, try to remember the vision you have for your family.  Leaders begin at home!

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I have three other quick things I want to share with you that are separate from the thought for today….

1) This has been on my heart and mind.  How are you using social media?  I was disturbed last night when I saw some people I know who are Christ followers who posted up (or commented/liked) a political joke that involved the tornadoes in Oklahoma.  I was glad to see the post was later taken down but it haunts me that worldly interests would allow us to lose sight and make light of the tragedy of death, suffering and loss of so many.  Social media can be a powerful tool, and just like any powerful tool it must be used with some caution and care.

2) I started a new giveaway yesterday.  I have three copies of Jon Acuff’s new book “Start” that I will be giving away next Tuesday.  Check out yesterday’s post to enter to win a copy.  It’s super easy.

3) Tuesdays are the day I post my family worship guide.  I have been very pleased to hear from a number of people who are enjoying the study throughout the year.  I’ll be honest, the number is not as high as I had hoped for but it is still good.  Each week the study gets downloaded about 100 times and some of those 100 downloads are for distribution at churches.  I appreciate everyone who is sitting down with their family and taking some time to study the Bible.  This week we have part 2 in the short series about Ruth and Naomi.  Week 21 – Ruth & Naomi – Part 2

 

What Can You Do With 7 Minutes? (and a Giveaway!)

How many extra minutes do you have in your day?  One of the biggest challenges I seem to face is getting past the overwhelming feeling of starting a big project or catching up on a long list of things to do.  In my line of work, this is the time of year when everything seems to hit at once.  Last week an idea hit me and I want to share it with you…

I’ll be honest.  I fell back into some old habits over the last month…with vengeance.  I started staying up late again to get work done, while still waking up at 5am to get going in the morning.  Guess what…that doesn’t work!  There were a few days where I was COMPLETELY useless.  So I’ve gotten back on track with going to bed early with my wife and getting up early before anyone else does.  But I need to squeeze a bit more productivity out of my day.

Last week, I think the solution found me.  Several of the sites I follow were abuzz about the 7-minute workout routine that had been devised by the American College of Sports Medicine.  No fancy equipment, just a quick routine of strengthening exercises for people like me who aren’t doing any.  It’s the perfect addition to using my treadmill desk at work.  I’ve been doing it since last week and have really been enjoying the quick routine.  It’s short, has fixed intervals, and a clear target for completion.  One day while I was doing my sideways plank it hit me that I could use the same idea to get ‘over the hump’ on some big projects I have been procrastinating on.

I’ve added two other seven minute segments to my day to focus some energy and time on things that need to get done.  Typically I do my seven minute workout in the early morning hours to help me wake up.  I’ve added a seven minute segment around lunch time and another for after the girls go to sleep.

At lunch time I focus on posting one item to Craigslist a day.  I have a backlog of about 40 items that I need to get on Craigslist.  Posting typically takes less than seven minutes, but this little trick is helping me get through the backlog of items that feels a bit overwhelming.  Craigslist is an easy way to put a little extra money in the bank.

After the girls go to sleep I pick one special thing to do around the house to help keep things clean.  Instead of collapsing on the couch or hitting the computer for some work/play time, I have started doing some special cleaning projects.  Maybe I hit a bathroom and clean it down really good, or scrub down our shower, mop the floors, etc.  You get the point.  Just pick one thing to do and get it done.  The whole house feels a bit overwhelming right now but bit by bit we can get it back into shape.

I’m just like everyone else.  I go through phases where my productivity levels are amazingly high and my focus is intense.  And then there are times like I am in now where things are a bit foggy and it seems challenging to keep up with what is absolutely essential.  This modified version of the GTD philosophy should help to clear the fog.

What could you do in seven focused minutes during your day?  Maybe you’ll want to try the 7-minute workout routine.  (Here is a cool timer that you can use to count you down.)  Some might want to purpose 7 minutes of their day in prayer or reading the Bible.  Others might want to purpose 7 minutes for meditation.  Maybe you can take 7 minutes to write an encouraging note or email to someone.  There are tons of things you can do with just 7 minutes.

I’d be curious to hear what you will do with your seven minutes in the comments section below.  Did you find this post interesting?  I’d appreciate you taking about 7 seconds to click the share button and pass it along via Facebook, Twitter, Google+ or email.

This week I am running another giveaway that will end next Monday at 11:59pm CST.  I have been reading Jon Acuff’s new book “Start” and it was excellent!  Jon has a fun and inspirational style of writing that makes you want to get out there and get things done.  April was a great month for this blog, so I want to share some of the blessings with you and give away 3 copies of the “Start” book.  This book is so popular that Amazon is currently sold out of them!  Three different winners will be randomly selected and each will receive a copy of the book.  Use the widget below to find out the various entry methods available…
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Favorite Things Friday: A new chapter…

Today I’m going to share with you a new pair of projects I’ve been thinking about and have planted the seed for.  Six months ago when I started blogging I had no clue where this would go.  When I started DadisLearning.com I wanted to write about the things I am learning about and discovering in my adventures as a Dad.  As you know, I have wide and varied interests.  It has been interesting to see the search terms that bring people to my blog.  The top three terms that bring people to my site are: treadmill desk, goal setting and backyard chickens.

Some quick research showed that I was already well placed in Google for the term ‘treadmill desk.’  I was in the top 10 for ‘homemade treadmill desk’ and ‘DIY treadmill desk.’  Would you believe there are 14,000+ monthly Google searches for the term ‘treadmill desk.’  My posts on the cost of eggs and the live chicken cam have put me highly placed in Google for that search as well.  My little live chicken cam is performing surprisingly well.

Why did I bring all that up?  DadisLearning.com is starting a new chapter with two new sub-sites – LiveChickenCam.com and DIYTreadmillDesk.com.  Both sites are live right now but in the very early stages of development.  I’ve written before about how easy and cheap it is to setup a website.  It took about 15 minutes to register these domains and get all the technical stuff done so that I could start developing the page and content.  Since I had a free domain registration these two new sites cost me a whopping sum of $9.95 all together.  Anyone can start a basic website, and if you want more guidance than what I have provided, perhaps you’ll enjoy Michael Hyatt’s 20 minute walk-through on going live with a site.

LiveChickenCam.com and DIYTreadmillDesk.com won’t be getting as many updates as DadisLearning.com but I will be writing new posts about the specific content on both sites.  DadisLearning.com will continue to bring you my typical array of financial, spiritual, fun and family material.

Why start spin-off sites?  Websites with a specific focus (niche sites) place better in Google and other search engines and generate better traffic for specific search terms.  Those sites can also perform better with advertising revenue and affiliate income as traffic grows.  For me, this is a low-cost experiment in an area I have been learning about.  I believe I can place LiveChickenCam.com in the top three of Google pretty easily.  I also think that DIYTreadmillDesk.com will perform very well in Google.

I’m a big believer in taking ideas, putting them into motion, and seeing where things go.  I hope you get out there and have some fun too!

It Was A Great Day, Till I Almost Died

Ever had one of those days where things are going along brilliantly and then something happens that flips everything upside down?  Yeah, I know you have and so have I.  How do you bounce back when the rhythm of your day, month or year gets flipped upside down?

Today’s post is part of my “Lessons From The Trail” series where I relate life lessons learned from my time on the Appalachian Trail…

My life almost ended on May 14, 2000.  It was a beautiful day.  I had woken up with the sun and got an early start on hiking.  It was one of those days where the miles and the hours fly by.  Around noon I stopped at a road crossing and ate lunch.  As I sat eating my lunch a car slowly drove by then circled back around.  The man in the car asked if I was a thru-hiker.  When I told him I was, he sprung out of his car and carried over a cooler and a couple of grocery bags.  He had hiked the Appalachian Trail a few years before and was out sharing some “trail magic.”

We visited for several hours, sharing stories and laughs.  After about three sandwiches and several sodas it was time for me to move on.  That section of trail ran along the tops of several ridge lines.  Before I knew it, a violent electric storm was on top of me and lightning was shooting down all around.  With no shelter nearby I bushwhacked off the trail looking for a place to hide.  I came up to a 50 foot drop off and realized I had to just get as low as I could and take shelter.  I threw my metal hiking poles and my pack under a tree and laid flat on the ground under my tarp.

Lightning was crashing down all around me.  It was so close that I could smell the electrical charge in the air and feel the pulse of energy of the closest strikes.  I laid under my tarp thinking this would be the end.  That time in Virginia is still one of the scariest moment I have ever had in my life.  Obviously the storm passed and I survived, or I wouldn’t be writing this today.

After the storm passed I gathered up my gear and headed back towards the trail.  The day had been beautiful up to that point, and now it was even better because I was alive!  The rest of the day was absolutely gorgeous with rain dripping from the trees, birds singing and a gleeful hiker literally skipping down the trail happy to be alive.

I lived to hike another day.

(Tip: If you think you’re going to die don’t go off the trail where people won’t find you for a long, long time.)

In life, the storms don’t always pass so quickly.  It can take a LONG time for the danger, depression, or sadness to clear away.  Sometimes we can get so lost in the storms of life that we don’t even see the clearing when it appears.  I’m not a therapist, guru or life coach, but here are a few things I do to help get things back on track:

  • It sounds silly but one of my favorite things to do when I’m having a rough time is “acting the fool.”  I might turn the radio up real loud and dance like a fool with the babies.  Sometimes I’ll make up a costume and chase the girls around.  I will pretty much do anything to recognize that there is more to life than the current problems.  (Plus the laughter of children is some wonderful medicine and a silly Daddy is much better than one who takes out the problems of the world on his children.)
  • Singing…usually really loud and horribly.  Yes, I might very well be one of those people you have seen going down the road, rocking out, flailing around.  I’ve seen a lot of unhappy people with scowls sitting in their cars, but I have never seen someone who is ‘rocking out’ that looks like they are having a bad day.
  • This one is a whole lot calmer…but is an important part of my life.  Prayer.  You can bet your bottom dollar that I was doing a lot of praying under that tarp as the lightning strikes were crashing all around.  Today I also pray a lot when dealing with various struggles and issues.
  • Visualizations are also a big help for me.  There are things that people do in life that are really going to make you mad, but in the long run there is nothing you can do about their choices and behavior.  Harboring anger and hate will only ruin your day and make no difference in the situation.  In cases like that I have been known to print out the email, message or offending statement, wad it up, and visualize my anger going with it as I throw it away and let it go.  Sounds a little crazy, I know, but it works for me a lot of times.
  • And finally, sometimes it just helps to vent about it for a bit.  Having a good friend, peer or spouse to vent with is a blessing.  Obviously avoid saying bad things about people if you can.  But sometimes we just need to talk it out and let it go.  Please make sure not to dump on your spouse the moment you come home from work.

How do you get your day, week, month or year back on track when things have gone bad?  I’d love to hear from you in the comments section.  And if you share this post that will expand the conversation.  I hope you’re having a great and blessed day!

Comparison is the Thief of Joy

This past Sunday morning I was asked to fill in for our preacher and give the sermon.  Since it was Mother’s Day I wanted to try my best to talk about the blessings that mothers give to the their families and to so many others.  But I also knew there would be some in our assembly that morning who find Mother’s Day to be a particularly painful day.  I wanted to do my best to reach out to them and provide some comfort.  Overall I was pleased with my effort and you can listen to it here.  However, due to time constraints there was one point I had to leave out, so I’m going to blog about it today…

The lesson was built around the quote, “Comparison is the thief of joy.”  Often this quote is attributed to President Theodore Roosevelt, but many times it is thought to have been said by author Dwight Edwards.  In trying to determine the origin of the quote I came across blog after blog of women writing about this quote.  Most were mothers who were talking about the challenge of seeing friends on Facebook and other places who seemed to have it all together while they were struggling just to survive the day.  I think we all have our moments where we can be a bit hard on ourselves, but women especially seem to struggle with comparison and allow that to rob them of the joy found in their unique place in life.

Mother’s day is a great joy for many, but for others it is heart wrenching.  There are those who miss their mothers because they are no longer there to hold.  There are others who long to be mothers and mothers who have tragically lost children.  Others might have contentious relationships with their mothers and many women have experienced the grief of a miscarriage.  It can be difficult to see others enjoying the day when there is such pain in our hearts.

In the lesson I looked at the Bible account of the life of Ruth and Naomi to help us think about the challenges associated with loss and sadness.  You probably remember that Naomi moved to a foreign land with her husband and sons.  In the course of a decade Naomi lost her husband and both her sons.  She was left as a broken woman to return home to Bethlehem.  Her persistent daughter-in-law Ruth would not leave her side and returned with Naomi to Bethlehem.  Naomi returned as a different woman, even renaming herself Mara which means bitter.

Following are the thoughts I wish there would have been time to explore on Sunday morning…

Many times we get caught up in comparing ourselves to others, but sometimes we compare our current situation to the way things used to be.  Naomi felt that God had dealt with her bitterly, taking her husband and sons from her.  This was especially challenging in a society where widows like Naomi would have a tough time surviving.  There is nothing wrong with reflecting fondly on times past, but life is full of changes and when we live in the past we rob ourselves of our present purpose.  Comparing our current circumstances to our past can leave us without a future.

We all have a purpose to fulfill in life.  It is through fulfilling our purpose that we can find hope, happiness and joy in life.  As we read in chapters 2 and 3 of the book of Ruth, Naomi discovered her purpose.  She became a mother to Ruth.  She guided and counseled her daughter-in-law in the way that a mother would guide her own child.  The relationship between Ruth and Naomi grew and in just the four chapters of Ruth you can see the bitterness in Naomi’s heart fade away.

Chapter four of Ruth offers hope and encouragement to anyone facing tremendous loss.  Ruth marries Boaz and gives birth to a son, Obed.  The people of Bethlehem, perhaps the same people who greeted the women when they arrived, noted the blessing in Naomi’s life.  In Ruth 4:14-15 we read - The women said to Naomi: “Praise be to the Lord, who this day has not left you without a guardian-redeemer. May he become famous throughout Israel! 15 He will renew your life and sustain you in your old age. For your daughter-in-law, who loves you and who is better to you than seven sons, has given him birth.”

There are any number of people looking for purpose and fulfillment in life.  There are mothers who have no one to mother and children and adults who long to have a mother.  There are young mothers struggling to cope with the challenges of raising young children who could use an extra grandmother to come and provide the love and patience that only comes through life experience.  By reaching out to lend a helping hand, new relationships are built and a new purpose in life is found. These new relationships may not be the same as the ones we once enjoyed, but they bring with them a unique set of blessings and opportunities.  When we reach out to others we often receive more of a blessing than what we give.

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One of the best things we can do for our children is teach them that the Bible is composed of real events that happened to real people.  Many times in our children’s Bible classes we tone down the real events of the Bible to protect young hearts and minds…and rightfully so.  But sometimes teenagers and adults never outgrow the children’s version of the Bible and don’t see the realities of the great pain and joy that people experienced in this great text.  Today I am launching a short series about Ruth & Naomi where you can explore the life of these two wonderful women.  Check it out today >>> Week 20 – Ruth & Naomi – Part 1

 

How Much Does It Cost To Mow The Lawn?

My view for a good part of growing season.

The other day I was out on the tractor and got to thinking about all the costs involved in mowing the lawn and keeping the back part of the property knocked down.  We have 1 acre of land and it adjoins to my parent’s land that is 2 acres.  We share the equipment and I try to mow their place as often as possible.  Let’s take a look at the associated costs of mowing 3 acres…

Mowers, Trimmers and Blowers…oh my!

If you have never looked at the cost of riding mowers…prepare yourself!  Anyone considering mowing an acre or more of land in Texas really needs to have a riding mower.  A solid riding mower will cost approximately $1500 new.  We currently have two riding mowers – a really nice Snapper that we bought from a neighbor who was moving into an apartment and a Craftsman tractor that was bought from an older couple that was downsizing.  Together they cost approximately $1500 total since they were used.

I know someone is going to ask this question…. Why do you need two lawn tractors?  We don’t usually have two tractors.  Both tractors were such a good deal that it was hard to pass them up.  It is nice to have a second mower on hand if one won’t start.  Occassionally my Dad and I will both hop on a mower and get after it.  I will not factor in the extra maintenance that is associated with owning two tractors.

A solid trimmer with edging attachment will set you back another $200.  There are all kinds of leaf blowers but I like a backpack style model that will run another $200.  In just equipment, we’re talking $1900.  We also have some other pieces of equipment that are unique to our situation that I won’t include in this analysis.

The girls going for a joyride on the Snapper. And lest anyone complain…the mower deck was turned off.

Fuel and Maintenance 

For the sake of this estimate, I will include $80 a year for fuel expenses.  I can do basic maintenance on the mowers such as tuneups, oil changes, blade sharpening/replacement and replacing belts.  Other maintenance items sometimes get contracted out.  Averaged through the years, maintenance costs with parts and fees would be $300 a year.  I had to bump this number up a bit since the occasional service call will put a pretty solid dent in the wallet.  Let’s add in a few consumables here as well.  Line for the trimmer will cost $15 a year and fuel stabilizer will set you back $5.  Total expense in this category is $400.

Time

I debated for a while on how to calculate time.  I finally decided to go with the basic rundown on mowing, edging and blowing all 3 acres.  It takes me 4-5 hours to get it all done.  This doesn’t include special projects that come with larger pieces of property.  For this analysis let’s assume I spend 100 hours mowing each year (5 hours x 20 mowings)

Hire someone?

It’s been a while since I have received a quote for the property, but it might be possible to find someone to mow our acre for $50 and my parent’s 2 acres for $75.  Using 20 mows in a season, that would add up to $2500 total for 3 acres.

Year by Year Analysis

Let’s play these numbers out a bit…

Obviously these numbers are just a possibility of what could happen.  In the 30+ years I have been around, we have only had the barn broken into once, but they did take everything.  It’s a realistic part of a scenario to factor in full replacement cost.  Over the long run there is a definite price difference for mowing property like ours.  The savings is roughly $14.80/hour over the 500 hours represented in this 5 year scenario.

What about a more realistic scenario for most.  My brother has a home on a small lot that he mows with an electric push mower.  I would imagine it takes him an hour or less to mow his place.  Let’s take a look at a possible scenario for him with a $300 initial investment in equipment.  His property could be mowed for $20 by a professional.  We will also use the 20 mowings per season for his calculation as well.

I was pretty generous with the electric mower because there is less to breakdown or maintain.  It is interesting to note that his savings could potentially be $14.50/hour over the course of the 5 year, 100 work hours in his scenario.  I had not expected the per hour savings for both scenarios to be similar.

Who is that masked man?

Final Thoughts and a Few Tips

I was a bit surprised by the outcome of the analysis.  Some years the costs of mowing our property might be high, but the years when everything works great really help to average out some of the expenses.  Of course this scenario does not take into account the per hour worth of my time.  I happen to enjoy mowing and quite often listen to podcasts or audio books while mowing, so it is a time of learning.  When you have little kids and lots of distractions in the office, time on the tractor is some of the best ‘quiet time’ you can get.

Here are some of my best tips/tricks from my years of mowing…

  • Buy ear protection with an AUX input.  You’ll look like you’re at a NASCAR event but they will allow you to listen to your podcast, book or music at a reasonable volume.
  • Discount Tire will plug tractor tires for free.  If you don’t have one around, the ‘Slime’ you can buy for tires works really great too.
  • A $5 bottle of fuel stabilizer for your gas will save you LOTS of money in repairs.  Modern gas seems to be especially hard on carburetors.  Spend the extra money to buy ‘premium’ grade gas at the pump.
  • After years of mowing in shorts and sneakers, I switched over to boots, jeans and long sleeves.  They help protect from the sun, dirt and nasty scratches.  There’s a reason you always see professionals in long pants and long sleeves even on 100 degree days.
Have you ever looked at the costs associated with mowing your lawn?  How does your scenario compare to mine?  I’d be curious to know…

Favorite Things Friday: Backyard Gardening

Planting seeds with my Dad and daughter in the big garden.

From “square foot” gardens to gardening in pots, I am a big fan of growing fruits and vegetables at home.  Does having backyard chickens and a garden make me some kind of granola nut crunchy hippie? Nope.  Am I a part of the “prepper” movement?  Nope.  I’m just a guy who is having fun on his acre of land.  If you must put a title on it, I prefer “urban hippie.”

I have fond memories of maintaining big gardens with my parents.  Walking through corn plants that were well over my head.  Getting itchy arms from reaching into the squash plants to twist off yellow and green squash.  The time I put a spading fork through my shoe right between my toes.  Now I spend a lot of time outside with my girls letting them garden as little or as much as they care to. They get super dirty, run through freshly planted rows and spill seeds…but it is truly a blessing!

We have two gardens out back.  One is a square foot garden behind our house and the other is a large garden behind my parent’s house.  (In case you’re new here, my wife and I built our house next door to my parent’s house.)  Let’s start off by talking a bit about the square foot garden….

Our daughter watering the square foot garden – first year.

Square foot gardening is a fun and easy way to start a productive garden in any amount of space.  There are kits out there for building a garden, but don’t waste your money on those.  I used some reclaimed wood from a construction site for the sides of my raised bed garden.  Sometimes if you find a house that is being framed you can nicely ask for the scraps from the rafters.  As long as the boards are about 4′ long and 8″ across you should be in good shape.  If you know someone in the construction industry they might be able to grab these scraps for you too.

The garden we have out back is 4′ x 4′…that’s 16 square feet of productivity.  Find yourself a relatively level spot in your yard with a fair amount of sunlight.  I cut the boards to a uniform length and shot three screws through each corner to make a quick square.  I didn’t even bother clearing the grass out where i was going to place the garden.  I laid down 3 or 4 layers of newspaper and plopped down my square.

For dirt I went to a great place in the DFW area called Living Earth.  There are multiple locations but the one I went to is in the back of the Arlington municipal dump.  They take wood, grass, leaves and other organic materials to create their own organic soil mixes on site.  A 1/2 yard of of their vegetable garden mix ran about $32 and was actually enough dirt for close to two square foot gardens like mine.  Call ahead to check pricing and availability.

Once the soil is in the frame, you can mark off the squares with string like I did for the first few years, or not.  There are plenty of sites that will help you figure out how many plants of a certain variety can be planted in a square foot.

Quick tip: For best results cover the surface of your garden with chipped wood once the plants are established.  Don’t use mulch, use chipped wood.  Living Earth has chipped wood and if you are driving a truck you can usually work out a deal to get a little bit to go along with your soil.  More info on chipped wood later in this post.

To fully automate the system you can either install a drip irrigation system, or a soaker hose which is the method I use.  Put the soaker hose on a timer on your faucet and you’re fully automated.  A square foot garden with chipped wood cover only needs to be watered once (maybe twice) a week even in the hottest weather.

My Dad tilling in the garden this season.

I also mentioned that we have a big garden.  It is the same plot of land that we gardened in when I was a kid.  Big plot gardening can be much more expensive and challenging.  The first thing you’ll need is a tiller.  Dad had used Troy-bilt tillers for years but recently bought a Craftsman rear-tine tiller.  This Sears tiller is the best one I have ever used.  It makes breaking new soil effortless with a gear setting that allows the tines to dig in reverse while the wheels are going forward.  This forces the tiller to dig deep into the soil.  Just the other day I pulled the tiller out for a quick 15 minute till to turn soil for some new plantings.  The only problem…good tillers are expensive machines.

Working organic material into a large plot garden can be a challenge too, because it takes so much!  We work in leaves, chicken manure, compost and other material that we generate.  Weeds and efficient irrigation also tend to be an issue in larger gardens.

I recently watched the “Back to Eden” movie online and it has challenged my thought process on gardening.  Once I find a reliable source for large quantities of wood chip, I plan to try this method on half of the large garden.  It sounds a lot better than what we’re doing now.

Currently we have onions, tomatoes, peppers, yellow squash, zucchini, butternut squash, watermelon, yellow corn, glass gem corn, snap peas, black eyed peas and pumpkin planted in the big garden. We have spinach, kale, carrots, tomatoes and herbs in the square foot garden.  We also have apricot and peach trees out back.

Beautiful strawberries in the square foot garden.

Will you save money running a garden in your backyard?  Probably not.  Will the produce be some of the best you have ever tasted? Absolutely!  Will you know what has been done in the production of that food? For sure.  Will you be more connected with the earth and God’s process and time for making things happen? Definitely!

If you’re pretty frugal and can scrounge up supplies, you can setup your own square foot garden in your backyard for just the cost of soil.  Some cities (or their waste providers) even have organic compost for free or ‘dirt cheap.’  You might check to see if your city or waste service provider has a program like that.  You could potentially get going for just the cost of seeds.  Happy gardening!

Here are some of my favorite shots from gardening over the last few years…

In A Funk?

Do you know the feeling where you are unmotivated, feeling ‘blah’, and just kind of blue?  I think it happens to all of us at some point.  Even some of the peppiest, happiest people I know have an off day every now and then.  How do you break out of a funk?

A cold, rainy day on the trail. This taught me to enjoy the warm, pretty days.

Today’s post is part of my “Lessons From the Trail” series.  At this time in my thru-hike of the Appalachian Trail I was in Virginia.  There are 500 miles of trail in VA and a lot of people get the “Virginia Blues.”  Part of the excitement of hiking the trail is crossing one of the 14 state borders on the Appalachian Trail.  It gives you a great feeling of accomplishment.  Virginia can be hard since Summer temperatures are starting to fire up, the trail crosses ridge line after ridge line, and the trees and rocks all start to look the same.

In life we sometimes just wake up on the wrong side of the bed and have one of those days.  Other times life just becomes a grind and it seems like we are constantly being challenged by work, family and circumstances out of our control.  There are also times where we just wind up in a rut or a funk and can’t really figure out how we’re going to get out of it.  Life has a lot of pressures…bills, relationships, housework, children, chores, etc.

We all need to recognize that it is OK to have an off day, or week, or even a month.  A lot of times getting back to the basics has helped me.  When I’m eating a bunch of junk food and spiking my blood sugar with soda it leads to some pretty serious peaks and valleys followed by some extended stays in the valley.  A bit of ‘healthy-ish’ food and water can help a lot.

Sleep is the other one that gets me sometimes.  Sleep and I have a weird relationship.  I can go for a few days here and there with very little sleep and have a super productive run and stay pretty peppy.  But I’ve learned that I can only do that for a few days before there is a price to pay.  This year I have been focusing on going to bed earlier and getting up earlier.  That consistency has been doing pretty well for me.

Getting the old body moving can help a lot!  We were created by God to move and work.  Our office jobs and sedentary lifestyles can put us in a real funk and mess with our bodies.  I have really been enjoying my treadmill desk.  I noticed a difference last week when the treadmill decided not to work.  This week has been SO much better since it decided to start working again.  A 15 minute walk during lunch or even a quick walk around the office also helps a lot.

Enjoying the view along the way.

There are any host of factors in our relationships that can put us into a funk.  Unsettled issues with a spouse, child, or family member can wreak havoc on our conscience.  Resolving issues can be daunting but can pay off big.  Other times we compare ourselves to the ideal image that others project on social media.  Comparing yourself to others never helps.  Run the race at your own pace!

It is also important to mention that things get out of whack with our bodies.  Men and women both have shifts in the elements that keep our minds and bodies running smooth.  If I were in a long-term funk I would visit the doctor for some lab work to see if there is something a little bit out of whack.  With all the bad things we do to our bodies, it wouldn’t be surprising if the body decides to fight back or give a few warning signals.

When I was on the trail I had little games I would play with myself and different things I would do to pass the ‘blue’ days.  Some days the miles went by slow so I would pick a unique tree on the horizon and see how long it would take to get there.  Once I was there I would pick another and see if I could get there faster.  I carried a small radio that I would listen to sometimes in the afternoon when the days were hot and the miles were long.  When the days were really hot I started taking a siesta to keep myself from getting beat down by the heat.  Sometimes a quick nap fixes everything!

We can play the same games on long days at work or at home.  I applaud every parent and grandparent that spends the day with young children.  Don’t put a bunch of pressure on yourself to keep a perfect home, be real and just have some fun or be lazy with the kids.  At work I like to use a list on my whiteboard.  If it is an especially challenging day I will break tasks into smaller chunks just so I can cross more things off :)

Sometimes you just need to let loose and do something unexpected.  It’s no surprise that Summer Solstice (the longest day of the year) falls during the time when most hikers are in Virginia.  You may or may not know that Summer Solstice is “International Hike Naked Day.”  Hiking naked would definitely mix things up.  No, I did not hike naked.  Shirtless was extreme enough for me.  The only people I saw all day were two old dudes hiking in their boxers.  It was awkward but it was a funny distraction for the day.

Maybe you just need to do something fun and out of character.  I know the kids love it when Mommy and Daddy just start dancing around the house like crazy people.  Sometimes being funky is the best way to get out of a funk.

What kinds of things do you do to help get rid of the blues or get out of a funk?

 

Let’s Be Real

Yesterday a friend of ours popped by to borrow a tool.  I had forgotten that she was coming by and answered the door with a dumb-founded look on my face as I was in the midst of doing chores and waiting for our baby to wake up.  She hung around a bit and we talked as I finished loading the dishwasher.  She made one comment that has stayed with me – “I like coming over to your house so I can see you are real.”

Real life is made up of many things from the silly to the sad.

I was in the midst of emptying a double-sink full of dirty dishes, toys were randomly scattered throughout the house and I’m thankful she didn’t go look at our bedroom which has become a repository for children’s clothes that need to be sorted and stored….and that was just the house.  Our lives have their messes as well.  We’re far from perfect but sometimes that is hard to tell if we only see each other at the church building a few times a week.

I appreciate our friend’s comment!  I take it as a compliment.  Just like most everyone else, our family has challenges and struggles that we deal with.  I try to be pretty transparent about what’s going on while maintaining some privacy.  In our fast-paced, social media driven world a perfect picture that captures a few seconds in a day can create a deceptive appearance.  I question my abilities as a parent, my wife and I argue from time to time, and I constantly struggle to be in the Word and living an active walk with God.

The church needs people who are real and authentic.  The church is made up of people and people are imperfect, struggling and searching.  In our worship service we try to set aside the cares and concerns of this world and focus on God, but sometimes our worries and concerns are so heavy that we need to feel comfortable reaching out for help and laying ourselves bare.  I appreciate so many at our church who embrace the imperfections of others and love them, nurture them and help them.

There is of course some risk in laying our faults out for all to see.  There are those who will judge and others who will condemn.  People may talk about you.  But there is great reward because there are those who know their role as a Christian and embrace you and love you like you have never experienced before.  Those people who are real will surround you with love and comfort.

Today’s post is written for everyone with a tender heart.  For those who sometimes break down and cry because they recognize just how blessed they are.  For those who get down on their knees and pray to God during the good times and the challenging times in life.  For those who are honest enough to say, “I don’t know, let’s find the answer together.”  Today’s post is for those people in my life who are real.  You are a blessing to me and I love you.

One of the best things we can do for our children is to teach them that the events we read about in the Bible are real.  Too often it seems like the curriculum I see for Bible class puts the Bible on par with a fairy tale.  Don’t believe me?  Check out this promotional piece we received from a prominent vacation Bible school publisher…

Over the next few weeks our family worship guide will focus on the accounts of some real events that we read about in the Bible.  Obviously it is up to parents to decide how much detail to include in their retelling of these accounts, but the emphasis should be that these were real people who did good and bad things.  I have even included some ‘free to reproduce’ coloring sheets to help parents with young children. God bless you all!  >>>  Week 19 – The Rainbow